Emotional interactions are governed by the Pauli Exclusion Principle

Seventeenth-century representation of consciousness

The Pauli exclusion principle states that matter particles cannot occupy the same quantum state. For example, only opposite oriented electrons can form pairs in the atom and determine a certain distance between particles, which causes a resistance to compression. How can intelligent people produce similarities in behavior?

In mammals and birds, the behavior is strongly dependent on emotions, and motivation often changes with time. Being close to one another, especially living in close quarters, differences in attitude becomes frequent. We notice the negative in each other and criticize too often. The emerging emotional distance provides a structure in society or the ecosystem. For example, mammals and birds display a compelling need for territorial needs and avoidance of eye contact. In close situations, such as in an elevator, we try to look away to keep our distance. 

Our need to form the opposite attitude does not influence our everyday life. In big cities, millions of people get along without significant disturbance. Nevertheless, in emotionally close situations, the opposing viewpoint becomes dominant. Even very young children attempt to separate themselves by the excessive use of the word, 'no.' Over time, loving partners and families actually tend to become more distant, and distant people, if spending time together, grow closer emotionally. 

In relationships, the emotional distance is tightly regulated. When we sense an increasing emotional distance, we intuitively move closer to maintain the distance. In contrast, separation prompts the need for closeness. 

Emotionally stable people tend to be satisfied and happy. Their mental calm makes them flexible and accepting toward others. Their feeling of love provides an openness to the other point of view. Without love, we are critical; new information feels contradictory in one way or another. Critical tendency exaggerates due to Aggravation, but it eases toward people we are not close to. Therefore, it is easy to be friendly to strangers and tell secrets on the internet. A perceived distance from their idols attracts fans to celebrities, politicians, and saints.

In oppressive class systems, there is an immense distance among the classes. A rigid code of behavior tightly regulates interaction among distant people and keeps conflicts at bay. Social cohesion and trust create a more egalitarian society, but inequality increases the social distance. 

Emotions' ability to regulate social, conceptual distance is analog to the Pauli principle in physics. 

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